Elly Oka, BACP | Therapist in United Kingdom

Focus on codependency
Practical goal setting
Strengths-based approach

About Elly

Elly Oka is a counsellor who helps people facing stress, anxiety, depression and trauma. She supports clients working through grief, self-esteem struggles, career difficulties and relationship concerns. Elly places value on each person's strengths and on the courage it takes to seek change.

Elly works in a straightforward, person-centred way. She listens and helps people name what matters to them. Sessions focus on practical steps, clear goals and slowing down overwhelming thoughts so change feels manageable.

Her approach draws on a mix of methods including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, cognitive behavioural tools, attachment-based ideas and dialectical behaviour approaches. That mix is used to match whatever is most helpful for the person in front of her rather than a one-size-fits-all plan.

Elly has five years of professional experience and is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, BACP. Her background includes work with people facing bereavement, career strain and trauma-related issues.

She welcomes people who want to build clearer boundaries, reduce compulsive behaviours or address codependency patterns. The work combines practical strategies, reflective conversation and steps to strengthen resilience.

To begin, a short matching questionnaire is completed and a first session is arranged so goals and a working plan can be agreed.

Therapeutic approaches and online support

Elly uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and cognitive behavioural techniques to help people notice unhelpful thoughts and take small, values-led actions. ACT focuses on what matters to you and on learning to live alongside difficult feelings rather than fighting them. CBT offers practical tools to test thoughts and change patterns that keep problems going.

She also draws on attachment-based ideas to help people understand how early relationships shape current expectations and reactions. That can be useful for issues such as intimacy difficulties, codependency patterns and fears around abandonment. Elly approaches this work collaboratively and will help you decide which methods fit your situation and goals.

If you are considering online therapy, please confirm the current session options before booking since the biography does not specify formats. Many people find online sessions easier to fit into a busy week, they can reduce travel time and allow for shorter check-ins when needed. The focus of remote work is the same as in-person work: clear goals, practical steps and regular review so sessions can slot into everyday life without major disruption.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesGrief Self esteem Depression

Also works with

AddictionsFamily conflictsTrauma and abuse Intimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeAvoidant personalityBlended family issuesCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCodependency Commitment issues Communication problems Control issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDissociationDivorce and separation Domestic violenceEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgiveness Guilt and shameHearing impairedHoardingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelity Isolation / loneliness JealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSexual assault and abuseSocial anxiety and phobiaVisually impairedWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Solution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

5+ years

Credentials

Listed on profile

Languages

English

Frequently asked questions

What kind of problems does Elly help with?

She supports people with stress, anxiety, depression, grief and trauma, plus issues like addictions, self-esteem, relationship and intimacy-related concerns.

How would you describe the therapy style?

Her style is person-centred and practical, with an emphasis on listening, clear goals and steps people can test between sessions.

What experience does she have?

Elly has five years of professional experience working with bereavement, trauma, career strain and related concerns.

What are her credentials and location?

She is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, BACP, and works in the United Kingdom.

Which languages are supported?

Sessions are offered in English and international clients are accepted.

What session formats are available?

The original biography does not list specific session formats; please confirm current session options before booking.

How are fees handled?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I begin working with her?

Use the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a session according to the therapist's availability.

Profile details come from information the therapist supplied to BetterHelp. Credential and registration rules differ between the United States, the United Kingdom and Australia.